Our throat chakra (#5) and colored bright blue, is associated with self-expression, communication, and the ability to speak one's truth. This chakra sits at the base of your throat and is powerful when it is open and operating correctly.  When it isn't, we may be in fear, feel small, step back, and not feel very empowered.

Your throat chakra is related to your health.  Many of us have been repressing emotions for years.  We may be afraid to speak up related to fears that we cannot even address ourselves. An open throat chakra is a beautiful thing.

It means we can speak our truths.

In the past 24 hours, dear friends @CahiraNoelani, and @ArralynShiri stood up and put together social media platforms so that students of Liana Shanti can share what she means to all of us. It has been a privilege to share parts of my story and work.

Honoring those who have been instrumental in our lives is important.  I truly cannot imagine my life with Liana in it.  I'm filled with gratitude for her teachings, guidance, and friendship.  With her guidance, I have healed my body beyond what I dreamed.  I have two businesses that she's guided me with. With her teachings and guidance through her 12D Business school, I am growing personally and professionally, gaining new skills and confidence.  My throat chakra is open.

So on the Lion's Gate of 2022, connect with your throat chakra. If it is closed, ask yourself where you are not expressing yourself accurately, then make changes.  For those who know your throat chakra is open, spend time today using it to express gratitude for those who have made a difference to your health and well-being.  

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Have you ever given thought to how important staying hydrated is?  We take water to drink for granted for many of us, yet a considerable percentage of our population fails to consume the recommended.

Consider for a moment that our bodies are 70% water, our blood 90%, and our planet is even around 71% water. 

Our cells and organs need water to function properly. Water is essential for our kidneys to operate, for our skin to stay wrinkle-free, aids in lubricating our joints, protect our spinal cord, regulates body temperatures, and aids the passage of food through the intestines, in turn, keeps constipation away.

So many of the things we do each day, breathing, urinating, and sweating, deplete the water in the body.

While eating food with high water content or drinking liquids like juice is helpful, the best source is clean, pure water.  While studies vary on ideal, it depends on how active you are and how much you sweat.  The Institute of Medicine recommends 3 liters (13 cups) a day for men and 2.2 liters (9 cups) for women. Just remember beverages containing alcohol and caffeine are not ideal as they have empty calories and, in many cases, are not the optimal choice for your health.

Consider that every day, the kidneys filter around 120-150 quarts of fluid.  About 1-2 quarts are removed in urine, and the bloodstream recovers the rest.  If our kidneys are not functioning properly, waste products and excess fluid can build up in the body and lead to urinary tract infections, kidney stones, and kidney disease.

Dehydration happens when the body loses more water than it takes in. It can also lead to an imbalance in electrolytes (potassium, phosphate, and sodium), which carry the electrical signals between our cells.  Electrolytes are kept stable by how well our kidneys function.

When the kidneys cannot maintain balance in electrolytes levels, the signals get all mixed up, leading to seizures, loss of consciousness, and difficulty in controlling your muscles.  If dehydration becomes severe, one may experience kidney failure, anemia, central nervous system damage, and your immune system will be compromised.  It is essential to consider that when we do not drink water, our health is being compromised, and while we can live without food for long periods, we cannot live without water.  We will die.

Studies continue to show that nearly 10% of all adults state they do not drink any water daily; almost 40% only drink 1-3 cups of water, 35% 4-7 cups, and 22% 8 cups of water. 

Track for a few days to see how much water you are drinking.  How does your body feel when you drink 9-13 cups for 3-4 days straight?

When we drink water, the following may occur:

Weight loss

Stabilized moods

Perform in activities better

Decrease joint pain

Flush out waste and bacteria

Reduce cancer risks

Prevent headaches

Enhance your skin, and 

Keep your bodies working.

So, grab a glass of water and toast your health!

When you know you are becoming a parent, so many questions start going through your mind.  What will they be like? Will I know what to do? Do you know how wonderful a parenting manual would be?

The beautiful thing is, a Human Design chart has all the information you need whether you are an infant or an adult in your 50’s.  The beauty of having a chart for your children is that you can teach and encourage them from a very young age to live according to their true nature and navigate life with an ease that most of us have never known.

Parenting can be stressful, yet with a Human Design Chart, it doesn’t have to be

Looking at your child’s human design chart, you will see their true nature and strengths. 

Knowing your design and that of your child allows for unchangeable, genetically-driven family dynamics to be shown.  Seeing what cannot be changed in the family dynamic gives you freedom from trying to change the unchangeable and can help you focus on alternative ways to problem solve.

How amazing would it be from birth to honestly know your child, understand each stage of development and what to expect, and have a method of teaching your child how to be self-empowered and always to feel loveable?  How wonderful as the parent to also be clearing your patterns and personal conditioning that may influence your parenting style as you are working with your chart.

When we are gifted with these little beings, our role is to guide and show them how to navigate the world we live in by helping them find appropriate ways to love, be empowered, authentic, and become comfortable expressing their true self.  Being able to parent them in a way that encourages and supports their growth, yet, still know how to teach them, to feed their bodies correctly, make good choices with friends, education, and garner all the skills to get from childhood to adulthood.

Utilizing your child’s human design chart, mentoring your child in a safe environment to become themselves is the greatest gift we can give them.  Their chart shows you what your child is here for and what roads in their life are going to be their strengths and capabilities.  How amazing is it to be able to see your child for what and who they are?

To Fully Embrace Your Child by their DESIGN: If my child is a:

Generator: They need to be asked yes/no questions and respect their response.  They are naturally responsive and need to be encouraged to pay attention to their response.  Generator children make non-verbal sounds that will give you a positive, negative, or neutral response to everything they encounter.  When a generator child is taught to act only in response to being asked or presented with something and act only when the response is positive or negative.  As a parent, the understanding of sound is vital, and not to force a generator child to say the words “yes” or “no” in place of their sounds (grunts/groans).  Once a child learns their natural response, it will be easy to teach the way society expects politeness in words.  It just isn’t a process to rush.  As a parent becoming comfortable and willing to take “no” for an answer when asked your generator child, a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer is essential.  It is very healthy for a generator child to be able to say “no”.

Projector: invite them into things and encourage them to study what you as the parent recognizes, “turns them on,” or excites them.  Projector children need to be recognized and appreciated for who they are.  They need to be invited to experiment, explore, and experience all that life has to offer.  Some projector children will not accept many of the invitations being offered.  They will say “no.”  An invitation is an invitation and no a command. Acknowledging that ‘no’ or negotiating that ‘no’ depends on how well you the parent knows your child’s full human design chart to appreciate your child’s talents, strengths, and vulnerabilities.  This will help you guide your child in knowing which invitations are ‘good for them and not.

Manifestor: teaching them manners (to ask permission as polite informing).  Manifestor children can be difficult for many parents.  They are not naturally controllable because they know intuitively that they can “just do it” themselves without help from anyone.  Teaching a manifestor child to ask for permission is extremely important.  The parents need to not unreasonably deny the child’s requests so that the child and parent build trust in their relationship.  Manifestor children need to be treated politely so that they can learn to treat others politely.  It is essential to help the manifestor child understand that their action strongly impacts others.  Learning this early on will help them understand the importance of informing others who will be affected by their actions, which will keep all their relationships running smoother.

Reflector: observing them as they are the barometer of how the family operates and knowing that they cannot be rushed as they need the full lunar cycle (28.5 days) to make major decisions.

If the reflector child is laughing, jumping around, those around this child are feeling good.  If your reflector child is crying, someone in their environment is having a difficult time emotionally.  The reflector child reflects everything in the environment around them.  In social settings, they will want to be near the middle or center of the action.  This is their natural place as they read the environment around them to gather information to make decisions from.  It is vital not to RUSH a reflector child in any decision.  They need a lot of time and for major decisions, a whole month, before they will know if it is correct or not for them.  As a reflector parent, learning patience allows the child the time they need to reflect on things.

The beautiful thing is that as a parent, the more you know your design and our living it, parenting your child by their design, the easier life will be.  Each of you will know your truths and values and the roads to travel.  In working with a few families, children over 8 have a much easier time grasping their designs and beginning to live them than most adults.

Give yourself and your child the gift of knowing who they are.  To have a human design chart done, contact me for details at kaia@kaiaalline.com

Why am I so afraid of my grief?

Is there hope for me if I grieve?

These two questions are often asked by those who seek me out for guidance. Most of us were never exposed to all the facets of grief, and honestly, the word seems to frighten people as so many are uncomfortable with death, loss, and of course, divorce.

How often do we phrases like, “don’t be sad,” or in a divorce one of my favorites, “Don’t feel bad”- you will choose better next time.” While there may be some intellectual truth to the comments, they sadly lack for our emotional well-being. Our being goes into conflict with these phrases, and the people who said they care about us are also uncomfortable with feeling. The end result for the person in grief is frustration and confusion, which lead to emotional isolation.

Most of us have been brought up to resolve all of our issues by thinking. Thinking WILL NOT heal grief. Grief has to be felt. Grief is also not a gender issue. Another story I hear all the time. Women deal with grief better. Not true. Yes, we are socialized differently from early childhood about who can cry and cannot, but research shows both men and women are limited in dealing with emotions such as pain, sadness, and what we are told our negative feelings.

Feelings are not gender-based. There is no right or wrong. There is no such thing as girl anger, boy anger, girl sad, boy sad, girl bliss, or boy bliss. They are all feelings, and we all have them.

There is a place for our thinking brain in grief. It helps take in information, but the processing and healing that is all feelings.

Grief is as natural as breathing. It is what each of us should experience when we suffer any loss. Any feeling you experience is right for you. Those feelings are normal and natural. Sadly, due to programming by our families, most institutions, and society, we are socialized to ignore or bury our feelings. Heck, for many, they believe their feelings are abnormal.

It can be argued that grief is the most powerful of all emotions and the most misunderstood and neglected. Grief brings up conflicting feelings caused by the loss one is experiencing. There may be a sense of relief in divorce once everything is laid out on the table, which feels good. At the same time, there may be fear about being alone for a long time. The conflicting feelings, freedom, and fear are a natural response to loss.

Before the divorce, your relationship had a sense of familiarity that included friendship, romance, family, social, and business roles. To grieve healthily, one needs to look deeply at all they are losing. Loss-of-trust is an area most overlook. For a moment, breathe and look at the areas that have caused you a loss of trust. It may be with your partner, a friend, a job, relationships, or even God. The loss of trust needs to be grieved and is a step many omit or skim over. Grief is about feeling broken hence the term a broken heart, not a broken brain. The feelings are important. It would help if you realy felt them not think or analyze your way through it. If you do, in the long run, it will be much harder to heal.

So often, those going through a divorce feel like they have failed because the marriage/partnership has ended. Family, religions, and society program us to stay in marriages, no matter what. We are deemed misfits, failures by many for choosing a healthy step for us versus staying in a relationship that isn’t aligned for us, maybe dysfunctional, or may physically harm us.

Take a look at all those beliefs and stories. Are they running your choices, or are you doing that? Are there stories and beliefs from childhood that no longer fit? Are you ready to grieve and release? If you choose not to, how much more damage do you feel those stories and beliefs will do to you. Will you get sick? What about the damage to your well-being, your children?

Choosing to be healthy is never a failure. Staying in a relationship that doesn’t honor our soul or allow us to heal our wounds and be as God intended for us is. What is holding you back from being your highest self?

Take charge of your life. Divorce only defines you if you let it. Who cares? Look at all the lessons you gained in your relationship and heal all that needs to be healed. Grieve what needs to be grieved, and then let it all go.

At some point, we get honest with ourselves and decide to contemplate or go through with a divorce. Then our minds begin to question everything. For many of us, detachment comes into play. Letting go is painful and uncomfortable. Our mind/ego begins sending us all sorts of scenarios about “no longer being the perfect family,” “no one else will want me,” “I always thought we’d be married,” “I can’t handle seeing him/her with someone else.” And a host of other old beliefs we haven’t begun to acknowledge.

Detachment holds us back from freedom.

Years ago, I was listening to a podcast by Ram Dass. He was telling a story about how one catches a monkey in India. One takes a jar with a small opening and drops nuts into the jar. The monkey eventually puts his hand into the jar, grabs the nuts, and then grasps that he cannot get his fist out through the opening. Hmm, how many of us do the same. Truthfully, all the monkey needed to do was let go of the nuts, and he could have been free, but no, he is too attached to the nuts. Attachment leads to pain and suffering, and if you are contemplating or in the process of divorce, haven’t you suffered enough to reach this place.

I know letting go is tough. I couldn’t imagine what my life would look like without being in a relationship without comfort, but also worry, resentment, manipulation, and judgment. Thankfully, unlike the monkey, I decided to be free and let go.

Learning to detach has become easier—I started with clearing out my space. Going through box after box of stuff that I hauled just because it had been given to me, or I might need it one day. Then it was everything else in my space, then dysfunctional and toxic relationships. ALL GONE. Oh my goodness, how freeing. Detachment is always about external things, but internal (inside ourselves, we find freedom and peace).

Step back and look at all the things you are ATTACHED to right now. You may be attached to the idea of being married, the spouse, the home, the lifestyle, the comfort, believing you have happy kids, and that this marriage can be fixed. Are you able to see how you are attempting to control? It reminds me of my marriage, where I kept placing ultimatums, yet I never followed through. I chose not to let go. I understand today why, but in the end, I suffered way more than I needed.

It was time to start being honest, acknowledging all of my wounds, and begin to heal. Once that stage happened, I had to settle into all the feelings and feel them to reach a place of grieving. In grieving, letting go happens, and then the detachment. It is so worth it.

In addition to the five stages of grief by Kubler-Ross, two other stages or emotions can also be a part of your grief. Guilt and shock are also common feelings many experiences. As we all experience loss differently, it isn’t a surprise. Actually, from my experience, there are many more emotions/stages we go through that are not addressed.

Guilt may come in as you begin to think about the hopes and dreams that are no longer a reality. Guilt can also come in when looking at what you begin to feel you didn’t do or could have done differently. Guilt is a useless emotion. The reality was in the moments when you chose what you did, that is what you knew. We cannot change what has happened. We can only go forward.

Shock can happen at any time in the grief process. Once we decide or are told that a divorce is coming, many will feel shock no matter which of our partners. Most couples do not get married, thinking divorce is coming. Sometimes the shock comes from cheating, financial issues, addiction issues, or other secrets that emerge. As we allow our emotions to rise to the surface and feel them, the shock will lessen, and we most likely will move into another stage of grief.

The important thing is to honor all the feelings that arise and let our bodies feel all we need to without stuffing anything back down again. In feeling, we can process the grief and let it go. That is when the healing begins.